1. I spent a week in Cape Town for Mom's funeral, and to sort out her stuff, and so on. It was a very unusual trip home – quite apart from the funeral – because I was travelling alone. No kids to distract me. No husband to do husband things with. I was hanging out… Continue reading Back from the Mother City: 5 things 6.4.17

1. There is a hierarchy of grief. When the loss is not yours, your grief is secondhand. You are grieving for the people in the first circle – for the person (or people) you love, in the worst place of their lives. This is called "sympathy", not grief, and it's not yours, your story, not… Continue reading 5 things about grief: 17.4.2016